Living with hyperhidrosis may change your holidays, but you can still have enjoyable and meaningful celebrations. Although excessive sweating may make some holiday traditions challenging, it doesn't mean you can't enjoy connecting with friends and family during the holiday season. By communicating your limitations due to hyperhidrosis, being flexible, and adjusting your expectations, you can help make sure the holidays are happy and memorable.

Communicate Your Needs
Let your loved ones know that connecting with them over the holidays is as important as ever to you, but excessive sweating is making it hard to plan as usual. Self-consciousness about hyperhidrosis may make certain group gatherings extremely stressful, which can exacerbate sweating and odor. You need to put your needs first to make sure you're taking care of your physical and emotional well-being.

• Don't be afraid to say no.
• It can help to use direct "I" statements. For instance, "I am not feeling well enough to host this year" is better than "Having everyone over is just too stressful." Communicating in this way makes your needs clear without making others feel accused or burdensome.
• Even if you usually maintain healthy boundaries, the holidays are a time when they may be tested. If a friend or family member tries to make you feel guilty for setting your boundaries, gently remind them that hyperhidrosis doesn't take the holidays off, as much as you wish it did.

Be Flexible
Instead of saying "no," say "yes" to something else. If a family tradition no longer works for you because of excessive sweating, it may be time to suggest an update.

• If you'd rather not travel as usual, consider offering to host. Ask others to bring potluck dishes and help clean up so you don't wind up overdoing it.
• If you usually host the gathering but can't do it this year, encourage someone else to host instead. They may be delighted to welcome everyone to their home for a change.
• If you always bring a beloved dish, pass the treasured recipe on to a loved one like you would a family heirloom, or shine the limelight on another chef in the family and invite them to bring their favorite dish.
• If you can't bring yourself to give up the party, think of ways to save time and energy. Use paper plates, plastic flatware, and disposable tablecloths for easy cleanup. Make decorating (or de-decorating) part of the event and get everyone to help. Plan a low-impact meal such as a stew that simmers all day in the crock pot with little prep work or tending.

If a large group setting feels too overwhelming, consider using a video chat service such as Skype, Zoom, or FaceTime to have a special holiday call on a smartphone or laptop. During a video chat, you can:

• Watch family open gifts
• Have them show you the decorations around the house
• Read a holiday story or poem to the children
• Sing favorite holiday songs together

If your family has a hard time understanding why you've chosen not to join in person, try sharing this Message for Employers, Family, and Friends from the International Hyperhidrosis Society.

Adjust Your Expectations
Even without the issue of excessive sweating, holidays often come with high expectations that lead to disappointment and stress. Letting go of the illusion of a "perfect" holiday can help you keep expectations realistic and focus on what's most important about the holidays. For many people, that means connecting with loved ones, being thankful for what you have, and finding hope for the new year.

Here are some mindful tips from Johns Hopkins Medicine for adjusting holiday expectations:

• Accept that your holidays won't be perfect and will be different from celebrations in years past.
• Focus on what really counts. Find things to be grateful for and look for new ways to connect with loved ones.
• If you get into a conflict with someone over the holidays, take a few breaths before you react. Try to stay compassionate and react with kindness.
• As you reflect on last year, be kind to yourself and let go of any negativity. As you look forward to next year, make smaller, gradual resolutions rather than huge goals that will be difficult to achieve.

During the holidays and year-round, the members of MyHyperhidrosisTeam are here for each other. Joining MyHyperhidrosisTeam means gaining a support group of thousands of others with excessive sweating who understand exactly what you're going through.

Here are some conversations from MyHyperhidrosisTeam members about navigating the holiday season with hyperhidrosis:

• "Oh god I dread Xmas day and being hot in the kitchen with the oven on and the pans bubbling away 🥵, and frosty outside so the heating is on for the family."
• "I have an update on a previous post about the Sharper Image Personal Cooling Device 3.0 I purchased and posted about. It does not work!"
• "I am now looking forward to a chilly or even cold winter. I would love to see icicles hanging from my eyelashes. Highly unlikely, I know, but we can dream, can't we?"

Have you found ways to celebrate the holidays despite excessive sweating?
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